Oasis Church

• Philip Wagner
• Aug 02, 2010
• Category: Relationships
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It was announced today that Al and Tipper Gore are separating after 40 years of marriage.

Sad news.  Personal heartbreak. Too many voices weighing in on personal business. A public life dealing with personal pain.

How can a relationship that was once close, break down? I don’t know about their relationship – so I can’t speculate. What about your relationship? What can we do to keep our marriage fresh and full of life?

It’s human nature to get comfortable with those we spend a lot of time with and often we tend to take our spouse for granted. To inspire some thinking about how to bring life into our relationship, evaluation is needed. Here are five questions to ask that could give you ideas on how to improve your relationship:

1.  What is my spouse most interested in or passionate about? How can I show genuine interest in that?

2.  What does my spouse love to hear the most? When is the last time I said that to them?

3.  What is my favorite quality about them – and when is the last time I told them.

4.  What is a simple gesture that I have made in the past that my spouse really appreciated – what’s stopping me from doing that today?

5. Is there something I’ve shown more interest and passion about than I have toward our marriage? What can I do to change that?

Ask yourself.  Ask your spouse.

Listen. Really listen.